Releasing Control ~
I never realized I felt the need to control anything in my life until I became a parent. It wasn’t that I wanted to control my children, it was the desire to control everything they came into contact with. Nothing tugs at my heart-strings more than my children. I wanted all of their experiences they came into contact with to be as wonderful as possible. With each child I began to feel more and more negative emotion as I worried, I carried more concern for their well-being, it is no surprise I soon developed depression. The more negative emotion you carry within you, the more you carry worry or any negative emotion the more you separate yourself from source or your own inner being. In that separation from source, I was moving further into despair and depression. I did not realize that at the time but I do appreciate that I am aware of that now.
In your awareness of your desire to change circumstances or people in your life, as you focus upon the problem, you perpetuate the very thing you desire an improved outcome for. You cannot push against the problem and find the solution at the same time. It is one or the other. When you come across a problem or difficulty, identify what it is you do not want; from that you can now identify the outcome you desire, then turn your undivided attention toward the solution. Recognize that you cannot control anyone or anything outside of yourself. The only thing you can control is your reaction to outside circumstances ~