Releasing Control ~

I never realized I felt the need to control anything in my life until I became a parent. It wasn’t that I wanted to control my children, it was the desire to control everything they came into contact with. Nothing tugs at my heart-strings more than my children. I wanted all of their experiences they came into contact with to be as wonderful as possible. With each child I began to feel more and more negative emotion as I worried, I carried more concern for their well-being, it is no surprise I soon developed depression. The more negative emotion you carry within you, the more you carry worry or any negative emotion the more you separate yourself from source or your own inner being. In that separation from source, I was moving further into despair and depression. I did not realize that at the time but I do appreciate that I am aware of that now.

In your awareness of your desire to change circumstances or people in your life, as you focus upon the problem, you perpetuate the very thing you desire an improved outcome for. You cannot push against the problem and find the solution at the same time. It is one or the other. When you come across a problem or difficulty, identify what it is you do not want; from that you can now identify the outcome you desire, then turn your undivided attention toward the solution. Recognize that you cannot control anyone or anything outside of yourself. The only thing you can control is your reaction to outside circumstances ~

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  1. Tracie, you got me in your first sentence! Dealt with loosing/relinquishing/giving up CONTROL this summer. Our 6 year old son participated in his first Extended School Year Program! Ok breathe… at a different school…What?… on a new bus number/driver/assistant/AND Bus mates!…I’m feeling faint…;
    And now for the biggie!..
    NEW School is in another Parish/county = a New Teacher + a new assistant + different classmates + New schedules + 30 minutes of bus riding (both ways, including pickups/dropoffs WHILE constantly driving around noisy railroads!)…
    MEANS, I think I lost consciousness when I read the Summer School assignment notice!
    We had about a week to regain our composure, reflect on why we initially screen that ESYP would positively transition him through summer in preparation for a full, intense fall academic season.
    STRATEGY: Remember final Teacher Conference mtgs: take pic/video of new school, talk about it with son. Did it! But, he’s still saying no, softly but emphatically .
    Time for Parent Training and Information Center (PTIC) Strategies: Request an Acclimation Visit…
    YES! That sealed the deal! Josh totally Enjoyed the ride, school edifice, cozy hallways, classroom layout, interactive stations, familiar centers, …
    And was not ready to leave after 30 minutes!
    Ok… Breathing is returning to normal…
    So how was the 8 weeks?..
    ….

    ….
    AWESOME! Josh enjoyed the bus ride and managed to take a nap riding home almost everyday!
    Progress! Josh’s Occupational Therapist shared that he was definitely thriving, socializing and Enjoying summer school.
    Wonderful! Joshie enjoyed unpacking his class papers and sharing his day!
    Great! For first time, Joshie celebrated his birthday at school!
    A huge Hi5! is our family grade for the Extended School Year Program! We hope Josh will be assigned ESYP next year. School begins in 2 Weeks. We pray that returning requires less Reacclimation time and maintain Transition patterns because our son participated in and Enjoyed ESYP.
    Life Lesson: Tracie Carlos (Awetism), our entire family learned appreciate loosing control… in order to reach for new heights and achieve new levels.
    [excerpt of summer Spectrum in ‘Enjoying The Hi5s of Autism- A Family Experience’ at http://familyenjoyinghi5autism.blogspot.com. ENJOY!

  2. Tracie, you got me in your first sentence! Dealt with loosing/relinquishing/giving up CONTROL this summer. Our 6 year old son participated in his first Extended School Year Program! Ok breathe… at a different school…What?… on a new bus number/driver/assistant/AND Bus mates!…I’m feeling faint…;
    And now for the biggie!..
    NEW School is in another Parish/county = a New Teacher + a new assistant + different classmates + New schedules + 30 minutes of bus riding (both ways, including pickups/dropoffs WHILE constantly
    driving around noisy railroads!)…
    MEANS, I think I lost consciousness when I read the Summer School assignment notice!
    We had about a week to regain our composure, reflect on why we initially screen that ESYP would positively transition him through summer in preparation for a full, intense fall academic season.
    STRATEGY: Remember final Teacher Conference mtgs: take pic/video of new school, talk about it with son. Did it! But, he’s still saying no, softly but emphatically .
    Time for Parent Training and Information Center (PTIC) Strategies: Request an Acclimation Visit…
    YES! That sealed the deal! Josh totally Enjoyed the ride, school edifice, cozy hallways, classroom layout, interactive stations, familiar centers, …
    And was not ready to leave after 30 minutes!
    Ok… Breathing is returning to normal…
    So how was the 8 weeks?..
    ….

    ….
    AWESOME! Josh enjoyed the bus ride and managed to take a nap riding home almost everyday!
    Progress! Josh’s Occupational Therapist shared that he was definitely thriving, socializing and Enjoying summer school.
    Wonderful! Joshie enjoyed unpacking his class papers and sharing his day!
    Great! For first time, Joshie celebrated his birthday at school!
    A huge Hi5! is our family grade for the Extended School Year Program! We hope Josh will be assigned ESYP next year. School begins in 2 Weeks. We pray that returning requires less Reacclimation time and maintain Transition patterns because our son participated in and Enjoyed ESYP.
    Life Lesson: Tracie Carlos (Awetism), our entire family learned appreciate loosing control… in order to reach for new heights and achieve new levels.
    [excerpt of summer Spectrum in ‘Enjoying The Hi5s of Autism- A Family Experience’ at http://familyenjoyinghi5autism.blogspot.com. ENJOY!

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