Evolution of Communication ~
All of us parents of children diagnosed with autism know all too well, many of our children lose their ability to verbally communicate with us or never learn to communicate verbally. From the moment we are given this diagnosis of a disability known as autism, we begin to search for a way of changing our children, of curing them so they no longer have this disorder. I know, I was there, as I recall that time in my life, I can feel the negative emotion within my tummy.
It has been quite the journey for our family, I have been where many of my dear parent friends are, in the mode of wanting to cure my child, whatever the cost, struggling uphill all the way. Then I came to a point where the cost became too great, not financially speaking, although that can be daunting as well. The cost I speak of is, how much discomfort was I willing to put my child through. When I was ready to sign Connor up for a placebo study at a nearby University which would include daily injections and there was a 50/50 chance Connor would receive an injection with the placebo, not the ‘cure’ (even though I know there isn’t a ‘cure’) that was when I stopped all motion forward. Through my own decision of releasing the need to change or cure Connor in any way, a path to follow opened up for me. When I stopped pushing against this disorder, who my son is and who he came forth to be, my world began opening up in ways I could never have imagined.
Have you ever tried to push a door open, it would not open, only to realize there was a sign that said, pull to open? When you stopped trying to push it open and pulled it instead, it opened with ease……As I stopped pushing against autism, the path of least resistance opened up. I made the decision to be in Connor’s life in any way I could, not on my terms, on his, I would follow his lead. I would observe, witness, become his student and find anyway of meeting him on his terms. This has served me so incredibly well. He has shown me how to be patient, how to love unconditionally, how to align with self, how to be in the moment and now he is teaching me how to communicate beyond words.
There are times Connor still needs my help with personal needs. My husband and I have an agreement, if Connor needs me while we are sleeping and calls me and I do not hear him, Eric can let me know and I will tend to Connor. It allows for ease and flow in our home and it works for us. This morning was one of those times.
I was sleeping soundly and Connor called for me, I did not however ‘hear’ him with my physical ears. Just before I awoke, Connor came to me in my sleep with his sweet face and in a whisper said, “Hi Mom!” The next moment my husband said, “Connor is calling you from downstairs, did you hear him?” I giggled as I got out of bed thinking to myself, yes, I did hear him, just in a different way than my darling husband did.
A decade ago, I would have not given this scenario a second thought but today, I know all too well, this form of communication many call telepathy is becoming a frequent way I am understanding or communicating with our son. We are not special in this way, we all have the ability to communicate telepathically, I am simply becoming increasingly aware of this way of being and I am hearing/seeing/feeling/knowing him more frequently. I know as time moves forward Connor will help me fine tune my abilities. If Connor had always been able to communicate verbally, I would never have had the desire to awaken in the ways I have and know I will continue to awaken. I am thrilled for humanity as I ponder the evolution of communication. Are you listening?
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