Releasing those Great Expectations
I had to completely release my own expectations of how or what I thought Connor should and should not do in all areas, speech and language as well as behaviors. I am not speaking of allowing our children to run wild at all, this is about energy, when we are one with ourselves, in alignment, feeling wonderful, content and joyful, our children sense this. When we are in this state of oneness with all that is and mindful, everything and everyone responds in kind.
When I was chaotic internally, Connor sensed this and responded with chaos, when I was calm internally, Connor responded with calm. When I observed Connor experiencing discomfort and I could ‘see’, ‘feel’ and ‘know’ I was not feeling discomfort internally, I recognized he was ‘feeling’ discomfort from another source, rather than taking it personally, it is then I am able to become his ‘calm’ within the discomfort. When I become calm and neutral when he is not, he has the ability to follow my lead into a better feeling way of ‘being’ in that moment.
It was as if all I had to do was ‘show up’ in his experience without my own preconceived expectations about what I was supposed to do or what I expected him to do.
It turns out, Connor was not only responding, or not, to my actions but my intentions as well. We all have this ability, we have simply forgotten, covering up how we feel with words that often have no true meaning and this wonderful population is here to remind us.
Tracie ~ ♥